Overcoming Reluctance
There is no faster way to bring about a positive response from life than by taking up the
thing that you've been most reluctant to do.
Consider this example:
A trainer was reluctant to review a
series of complex training materials. Moreover, his schedule was so full that he was
wondering how he would have the energy to go through the materials and do the training as
well. He decided to overcome his reluctance, and went through the complex materials.
As he finished the last changes, his telephone rang. He heard the voice of
his training manager on the other line, notifying him that a couple of his classes had
been rescheduled, making it unnecessary to go through one of the complex set of training
materials he was about to go through next, relieving his anxiety and tension.
The effort by the trainer to do something
he was reluctant to do helped trigger a life response that helped ease his situation.
Here's another example:
A consultant was waiting to meet with a
staffer who needed to learn features in a project management software program for the
project she was in charge of. The client was late so he decided to take out the software
manual. Though he was very proficient in the program he noticed there was a feature
in the program that he hadn't reviewed. In the past he thought that the feature was
a bit too esoteric and too difficult to understand, so he ignored it. However, that
morning before the client arrived he had a little time, so he decided to tackle the
feature.
A few minutes later the client arrived a
little late, and the consulting between the consultant and the client begun. He asked the
client if she had any particular issues she wanted to address. She began to explain her
problems, and then suddenly the consultant was thunderstruck. Out of the hundred
possible issues related to the project management software, she had picked out the very
one in he had reviewed while waiting for her to arrive! Not only that it turned out
that that feature was the most important thing for her to know about since it was the very
key to her work! After a few minutes the consultant and client were well on their
way to solving the problem that the client had which was the same issue as the consultant
had reviewed before the meeting. With every development and solution related to this item,
the client became ecstatic, thrilled that she had a solution to a significant problem in
her work. At the end of the consulting session the client was happy and beaming with
satisfaction. The consultant was happy too, and in a bit of a daze!
The effort by the consultant to learn
something he was reluctant to learn helped trigger an event that led to immediate success
and happiness.
Here's
another example:
A woman looking for a new position as an
administrative assistant was reluctant to learn a new computer program to increase her
skills so that she could get a better job, with better pay. One day she decided to
reverse that and decided to learn a spreadsheet software program; one that she rarely used
in any previous job position. That knowledge could possibly be one of a number of
software programs that could aid her in a potential admin position.
Within a few hours after learning the
program she got a new job. Not only that but the job position involved extensive use
of the very spreadsheet program she had learned just a few hours before.
The effort by the woman to learn
something she was reluctant to learn helped trigger an event that led to immediate (and
very closely related) positive life response.
Another example:
An individual
was
studying the cause of
the phenomenon of life response. He says at
one point that he doesn't usually read fiction, thus he is
unconsciously shutting himself from the understandings of life
response that could come from
such works
of fiction. So he reverses himself
and shows interest in a work of fiction
that can help him understand life response. He reads over one hundred
pages of a suggested novel
that could be useful for this topic. Along the way he notices that he hasn't the
deeper
insight
to derive great understanding
from
the novel. The next day he receives
unsolicited from an associate an
email with a very detailed line by line(!)
explanation of life
response
in the book.
He has understood that
by making the effort to overcome a reluctance he miraculously received all
the insight he sought o know on his own.
And now one final
example:
One of the nurses upstairs called for a chart. The computer showed
that the chart was still upstairs. This meant that I had to go upstairs
to look all over the place for the chart, which is something I don't
usually do and get frustrated when I do it. Well, this time I resigned
myself to going upstairs to search for this chart. As I was going out
the door from my department, there was a cart there holding several
charts. I turned the first one over and it was the chart I was just
about to go find!!!
She has overcome a
reluctance, a limiting attitude, and a limiting habit all in one stroke to
enable this wonderful response from life.
STRATEGIES
Here are some strategies as it relates overcoming some form of reluctance:
-Think about a few instances in your life in your life where you were reluctant to do
something, and which also led to your missing a great opportunity, landing in unfortunate
circumstance, or something similar. Then consider what negative
attitude, habit, or other
aspect of your character came into play. How is it in play now, and what can you do
to overcome it? Make overcoming this reluctance the key growth path in your life,
and watch startling results (including ("life responses") follow.
-Make a list of all of the things that you have been reluctant to do, but know you need to
do. Take up the item that life seems to be pushing you most to do. After you complete it,
watch for a life response.
-Watch current circumstance. Whenever
life presents you with situations, circumstance, and opportunity, immediately and
positively respond to it.
-Think about situations where you are reluctant to take an action
because of its enormity, lack of confidence, skill, or other reluctance, and take the
smallest effort to accomplish it. See if there is a
life response to your token
effort.
The
life response is the doorway to your
success in life. There is no more powerful means of moving to the next plateau of
achievement than by overcoming one's reluctance to do a thing that life is compelling you
to do.
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