Normally when we are troubled by a major problem in our lives, we
ponder the problem deeply, gravitate to the
solace and help of others, or if desperate, seek help from the beyond,
such as through prayer. When the problems occur we are
often startled and taken aback,
left helpless and alone, lost without the knowledge and power to overcome our troubles. Yet our
research has revealed that there are a number of ways we can overcome our serious
problems, and even turn them into great successes.
See Negative Circumstance as Opportunity To Grow
We have already spoken of the power of positive
attitude. Positive attitude
attracts positive circumstance from life, and can make our existence far more trouble free
and joyful. Yet if we encounter a real problem, how can a mere positive attitude help us?
Our first observation is that a person with a truly positive attitude sees serious
problems not as negative circumstances, but as opportunities and positive ways to learn and grow. A person
with such an attitude understands that beneath the difficulties there is something
expressing in life and in our own deepest nature, (i.e. our soul) that
yearns to be set in the right or a better direction. Because of our
limited capacities, wrong past deed, etc. the circumstance and situations
we come upon in life can only express as a negatively.
Yet at a deeper level we perceive that this negative expression is the
most direct way to bring about our further personal growth. Perceiving negative
circumstance as positive potential gives us the necessary base of peace and
equality to move in the right direction to solve the problems we
encounter. With such an attitude one
is already well on the way to solving even the most serious problems of life.
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Then how can we actually solve the serious problem that life
presents? There are two basic approaches. The first is the more dramatic and radical
approach, and involves changing yourself. The second is a series of approaches, just as
powerful, yet calls for the intrusion of "the beyond."
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Changing One's Corresponding Nature
The most direct, radical, and effective method for dealing with serious or
long-term problems is to take any serious problem and relate it to a corresponding
weakness in your character or capacities. For starters look deep within yourself and
consider which negative attitudes correspond to the
problem. Sometimes it is not very obvious because if we knew our bad attitudes we are
likely not to have expressed them in the first place! The essential rule is however that
there is a matching negative quality in yourself to any outer problem even if you don't
think you precipitated the problem in the first place.
The same approach can be taken with your habits, opinions,
judgments, personal values, skills, knowledge, and your
ability to act. Examine the problem in
terms of something wanting or lacking in each of these areas, and discover where a
capacity is missing. If you are able to identify the corresponding weakness in yourself to
the problem at hand, and are able to reverse that weakness in yourself in some manner, you
will not only have the power to reverse the problem, but you may be able to turn that
problem into an unthought of greater possibility of achievement.
A woman who was a temp employee at various companies over a
ten year period, decided that she needed to overcome her disdain for some of her
co-workers. Suddenly out of the blue she was asked to work full time at the company, her
first full time job in a decade, and was even later able to sustain a raise and a better
position within the company by continuing to improve herself on this same weakness.
Here's another example of overcoming a negative attitude;
in this case overcoming a reluctance to deal with a problem.
A man had developed a serious shoulder and back pain one
summer. A few months after the inception of the pain the man began to develop a software
program for a company, though the details of the cost were never formally hammered out. He
worked on the program for months without an agreement, and still was not sure if the
program even worked. When he met with the client, the client suggested that even more work
be done on the project, making the situation even more absurd to the programmer. At this
point he overcame all his reluctance to confront the situation, including his own weakness
and hesitation to clarify the issues at hand, and demanded a formal agreement from the
client before any more work would be done. Though the parties could not come to a formal
agreement, in his mind the programmer decided to halt any further work on the project.
When the programmer returned from the meeting, he suddenly realized that the neck and back
pain that he had continuously for six months had completely disappeared.
Of course, this inner-outer correspondence approach assumes
that you can identify the corresponding weakness in yourself in the first place. This is a
somewhat difficult thing to uncover. (Then, of course, once you have identified the
weakness you would need to sincerely act to change that weakness in yourself). For many
this approach just might not be possible because we may not have the knowledge, insight,
or ability to relate the problems to one or more of our lacking character or capacities.
Therefore, a second approach may be required. This approach requires you to utilize one or
more psychological and spiritual techniques to help you untie
the knots of your life.
Consecration of History
For example, one approach is to use the higher power that we discussed earlier
to invoke a force that can overcome our troubling problem. We call this the power of
consecration and discuss it in the section called The
Great Secret. As it applies to dealing with problems, one can use this power of
consecration to dissolve the problem.
The technique we suggest is to set aside some time, sit
quietly and try not to be bothered by the problem too much. Steady your self, and think or
feel that you are about to speak with a higher power, what we call
"the force." Then narrate or imagine the sequence
of events that led to the problem. Finally, with intensity, offer up (i.e.
consecrate) the problem to the higher power. Then let go of your thoughts and attachments
to the problem, and over the next few days watch for any life response.
Consider this example where a programmer was confronted with a problem that
returned from the past.
A software programming company had done a bid
for a client in the past, and there has been a real difficulty in securing the work
(because of the client's lack of funds, confusion of direction, etc.) There had been a
general strain in the whole process, and the bid was not secured by the programming
Surprisingly the programming company was asked
back to do another bid for the client six months later. Before the meeting for the new
contract occurred the programmer sat in his car and followed the technique of offering the
histories. In his mind he narrated the events of the past and offered the
difficulties to the higher power. At the meeting that ensued the client immediately gives
the programming company the bid, and had the programmer immediately start working on the
project at the site. As the work on the project was performed at the site the
programmer noticed that everything on the project seemed to be proceeding perfectly, the
very opposite of his relationship with the customer in the past.
Consecrating the history of the past is a
powerful way to righting a bad situation.
Offering One's Past Responsibilities or Propensities
Here's a another, similar approach. If you know that your past actions have led to
the present situation, you can "offer up" your original wrong actions
to the higher power, the force, the Divine, so you can
dissolve the effect of your past deeds at its roots. Thus you offer your responsibility of
the past to loosen the knots of the problems in the present.
Similarly, if you know specifically what specific part
of your character and makeup in the past was directly responsible for the problem,
you can offer this as well. (This approach has an even deeper and purifying effect on
Yet a final method along these lines is that every time
the thought and emotions of the problem arises, you simply shift your thoughts and
feelings to the higher power. Then at the point where the remembrance and offering to the
higher power matches (i.e. substitutes for, the intensity of your feelings and emotions
toward the problem itself), the solution is found.
Prayer, Concentration, Meditation
For those with a more religious or spiritual bent, one can also engage in prayer or
concentration/meditation to dissolve a problem. For example, one who can normally pray at
a deep level can expand that effort to a full three consecutive days of prayer. In the end
that approach will surely dissolve the problem. Likewise someone who is able to do deep
meditation or concentration can follow the same approach. (Again, at some point the
intensity of the prayer, meditation, or concentration should match and surpass the
intensity of one's feelings and emotions of the problem.)
A woman's mammogram results indicated a
dark spot, suggesting potential serious problem (i.e. breast cancer).
The next day she was to have a follow-up review of the tests to confirm
or reject the hypothesis. She prayed deeply. The next day at the meeting
where they were reviewing her x-rays, they noticed that the spots on the
x-ray had some how disappeared! She was then told of course there was no
present danger to her health.
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individuals used prayer and related techniques to get over serious
illnesses, impossibly difficult situations, harassing problems, restrictions
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Gratitude is a very special quality in humans, a quality that can be said to border
on the spiritual. Some have even suggested that gratitude is a new form of goodness it the
world. If we look around us we can see that individuals with a "soft nature"
have a natural way of expressing their gratitude. A person who shows gratitude is in
essence recognizing the goodness and rightness of the flow of events in his life; perhaps
even subtly recognizing a Divine hand in things. Gratitude is a quality that moves an
individual from strife and bitterness to a higher emotion that borders on love of life.
We have noticed that those who are capable of gratitude
normally lead a pleasant, smooth, and generally trouble-free life. Those whose sense of
gratitude is weak or dull find all kinds of problems arising in their lives. Our
conclusion then is that a very effective and powerful way to overcome a serious problem is
to change our negative feelings toward the problem to corresponding positive feelings of
gratitude to the people and circumstance related to the problem. See the goodness and
benefit of the people and circumstance in your past and make your feelings positive with a
sense of gratitude. This approach can solve a serious problem very quickly!
On the other hand for many these approaches may not be suitable. For those with a
more mental bent, there are solutions as well. For example, one can simply try to analyze
the problem in a wider context so as to arrive at a fuller understanding of the problem.
This can reveal solutions not perceived before.
A Calm and Equal Basis
Whichever approach you use it is important that you remain calm and equal
throughout the situation. The first rule in dealing with any problem is that you need to
be still and not overwrought by the problem. In an atmosphere of anger, fear, and worry,
the problems only get exacerbated, and the power of these techniques are reduced. In
addition, having a general positive faith that one way or the other the problem will be
overcome is also very helpful. That includes accepting that what comes as a
result of utilizing the above methods is for the best, even if it is not what one expected
or even likes.
There are some instances where one simply
needs to completely forget the problem to
solve the problem. For example, a person who is completely overcome by a
situation may need to completely forget the
problem before taking any action. Sometimes just by ignoring the problem,
the problem will ease.
If you are sincere in using any of the techniques suggested
here, you will be able to solve any problems in your life. Furthermore, you might find
that dissolving the knot of the problem also opened new doors for you and propelled you to
new levels of happiness and success in life.
Forget Problem to Solve It
Interestingly one of the best
ways to solve a problem is to forget it. When we dwell
on our poverty, illness, debts and failure etc
we are only immersing ourselves more into it.
On the other hand, those who forget
these when they arise are putting themselves
in a psychologically strong position that will help them dissolve the
problem. Our emotions are less invested in them, our
being is freer, and we are more susceptible to positive influences.
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